Scenario: "Dude, we'll be happy when we finally get: ______. Yay!" And then when you get that son-of-a-!@#$%, what happens?
- Your happiness level returns to where it were before.
- "Does life suck this much?" you ask yourself.
- "That is, whatever I achieve, my happiness level will always return to normal?!" you scream.
- You betcha -- that is, if you think: _______________ will make you happy.
"So how can I be truly happy?!" Do what the richest two folks in the world do: Start giving.
What Altruism Does To You
During gift-giving season, what makes you happier?
- a) Searching, buying, giving gifts to family/friends.
- b) Receiving your gifts.
Unless you're some psychotic gold-digging bastard, your brain subconsciously felt when you received your gifts: "Good gosh mutha-!@#$%^! I was so much happier when I gave those gifts. Ahh!" Why does that happen? According to researchers:
What Makes People Seriously Happy
- [The care-and-connection part of the brain] is a very different part of the brain than is active with romantic love.
- These brain studies show this profound state of joy and delight that comes from giving to others.
- It doesn't come from any dry action -- where the act is out of duty in the narrowest sense, like writing a check for a good cause.
- It comes from working to cultivate a generous quality -- from interacting with people.
- There is the smile, the tone in the voice, the touch on the shoulder. We're talking about altruistic love.
And, the nice side-effect to giving:
You Start Living Longer, Too
According to the researchers:
Numbers of children, education, class, and work status did not affect longevity...52% of those who did not volunteer had experienced a major illness -- compared with 36% who did volunteer.
It's like your body telling you it wants to live longer because life is pretty gosh-dang-fun. So whenever you're feeling down-and-out, and you're looking for a quick-and-sustaining-happy-high:
Posted on March 08
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