Scenario: "Dude, I want to be resilient, but people screw me up all the time. Ahh!"
What's one of the key variables that distinguishes resilient people from the quitters?
Self-accountability.
According to a study by Harvard's Psychiatrist Stuart Hauser, resilient people:
...were really quite talented at taking responsibility. Most people in the world don't take responsibility, they see things as other people's fault. But every one of the resilient kids were very, very clear about their contribution to the mess that they were in. The boy we called Pete was expelled from school a million times, and he could tell each time how he kicked someone in the shin or gave some teacher a hard time, and that got him kicked out. He never blamed the school for kicking him out. They had self-confidence.
Building resilience takes a simple switch in mindset.
Instead of blaming __, start blaming yourself for whatever predicament you're in.
The beauty in that?
You'll start seeking solutions to get out of it.
"It's me."
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Grammie
Posted @ 12:28 PM on February 16, 2007
Someone very near and dear to me has a lot of negative things happening in her life. She tends to blame others for all that has happened. Oh how I wish I could help her understand how important it is to take responsibilty for her own choices. Self accountability is something I was taught at a very young age. You guys drive it home wonderfully in this thoughtful article. Thanks again!