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  <body>&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Scenario:&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;em&gt;"Dude, I don't want to argue with my team members because it'll hurt their feelings. Ahh!"&lt;/em&gt; Earlier, we wrote about &lt;a href="../../3-reasons-why-seeking-harmony-kills-your-team/"&gt;why a healthy debate uncovers the best decisions and answers&lt;/a&gt; to serve your company, your employees, and your clients.  In this spankin' fresh article, we'll focus on how to incorporate healthy conflict into your business -- and make the best possible business decisions.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;h2&gt;How to Not Debate with Somebody&lt;/h2&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It's the usual scenario between a manager trying to improve an employee's work:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Manager Billy:&lt;/strong&gt; "I don't like how you constructed that widget. Do it better!"&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Christie: &lt;/strong&gt;"Umm....okay." &lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Christie's&lt;/strong&gt; inner-voice: "Billy's a #@!$ who's trying to sabotage me."&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Manager Billy: &lt;/strong&gt;"Be careful next time. Thanks."&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Christie'&lt;/strong&gt;s inner voice: "That mutha $@!*%$#."&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;em&gt;Christie continues doing what she's been doing.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span class="highlight"&gt;Instead of engaging your employees in a healthy conflict, they put their guards up if you do it incorrectly. They'll start wondering about your ulterior motives. &lt;/span&gt; (And: Even if you don't, they'll invent something.)  When you start incorporating conflict into your business wrongly, your employees start thinking:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;"He hates me. He's trying fire me!"&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;"He can't do any better!"&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;"This dude is just trying to look good in front of his boss."&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;"He's just some power-hungry chump."&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;"He's getting his revenge for his nerdy upbringing."&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Conflict is good, yes; but importantly, you need to learn how to do it properly -- if you want to influence your team.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;h2&gt;3 Steps to Arguing Effectively, and Make the Best Business Decisions&lt;/h2&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Use the Trizoko 3:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;h2&gt;Focus on the ultimate goal.&lt;/h2&gt;
You're arguing for one reason:   &lt;span class="highlight"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;To seek the best possible solution to whatever you're doing -- whether that's a client project, a marketing approach, an employee applicant, or whatever else. &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt; Everything else takes a second seat to the ultimate goal. This keeps you fully focused in seeking the best possible answer with your team.  &lt;strong&gt;Our Tip: &lt;/strong&gt;When you're debating with your team, let them know why you're doing it (i.e. the ultimate goal).  In a study conducted at a Harvard Library, simply &lt;a href="../../how-to-get-what-you-want/"&gt;using the word "because" dramatically helped a person get what he wanted&lt;/a&gt; (94% vs. 60%).   So, if you want your team to debate vigorously for the best solution, start using "because". That is: 
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;em&gt;"I want to debate this vigorously &lt;strong&gt;because &lt;/strong&gt;we're seeking the best possible solution for our Client Sammy."&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;em&gt;"I want both of us to fight for our best applicant &lt;strong&gt;because &lt;/strong&gt;we're trying to build the most kick-ass team."&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;em&gt;"I want to discuss this openly &lt;strong&gt;because &lt;/strong&gt;we need to find the best way to manage our employees."&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;h2&gt;Trash personal agendas.&lt;/h2&gt;
Facts, facts, facts, facts, and more facts.  &lt;span class="highlight"&gt;When you stick to the facts of a situation, you leave your emotions and personal agendas at the door. &lt;/span&gt; (e.g. "&lt;em&gt;Health insurance plans boost employee morale as shown in this study: _____&lt;/em&gt;" vs. "&lt;em&gt;Health insurance sucks. We'll waste our money. We don't need it.&lt;/em&gt;")  Stanford's Business Professor Kathleen M. Eisenhardt &lt;a rel="nofollow" href="http://harvardbusinessonline.hbsp.harvard.edu/hbrsa/en/issue/9707/article/97402.jhtml?path=arc&amp;amp;pubDate=July%201997"&gt;studied&lt;/a&gt; the detrimental effects of avoiding facts when debating:
&lt;blockquote&gt;&lt;span class="highlight"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;In the absence of good data, executives waste time in pointless debate over opinions. &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt; Some resort to self-aggrandizement and ill-formed guesses about how the world might be.   &lt;span class="highlight"&gt;People&#65533;and not issues&#65533;become the focus of disagreement. The result is interpersonal conflict.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;
Often, when we humans argue, it's because we either: &lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;want to keep our pride intact, &lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;are belligerent, &lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;want to feel superior, or have the ever-popular: &lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;"I'm-always-right-so-you're-wrong" mindset.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt; &lt;br /&gt; Sure, we all have personal agendas. It's been ingrained in us since childbirth when our moms, dads, uncles, grandmothers told us we were the most special person, ever -- so we've felt superior ever since.  Yet, great business leaders trash personal agendas for the sake of the ultimate goal.   
&lt;ul&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Sam Walton did it by sharing equity in his tiny Five and Dime store that drove his managers to kick ass for his customers. &lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;William Hewlett and David Packard did it with their open management style. &lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;Howard Schultz did it by offering health plans to his early employees. &lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;We could describe countless examples.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;br /&gt; &lt;strong&gt;Do what's best for the company.&lt;/strong&gt; &lt;strong&gt;Do what's best for the customer.&lt;/strong&gt; Then, and only then, you'll start getting the best for you. You'll see a pretty cool trickling effect. &lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;h2&gt;Debate vigorously.&lt;/h2&gt;
Seek the ultimate goal. Trash personal agendas. Cool, but what ultimately gets you the best possible answers?  &lt;span class="highlight"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Debating vigorously.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt; Peep this:  &lt;ol&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Bob &lt;/strong&gt;and &lt;strong&gt;Jane &lt;/strong&gt;argue about colors on a client project.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Bob &lt;/strong&gt;really feels the color blue sucks.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Jane &lt;/strong&gt;thinks the color red sucks.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;They compromise: &lt;strong&gt;They get purple.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt; &lt;br /&gt; &lt;span class="highlight"&gt;If you avoid debating vigorously, you get answers that try to mesh two differing opinions -- that end up sucking, anyway.&lt;/span&gt; You don't want consensus. You want the best possible answer, which you rarely get when you try to seek a consensus.   Jim Collins's six-year &lt;a rel="nofollow" href="http://money.cnn.com/magazines/fortune/fortune_archive/2005/06/27/8263408/index.htm"&gt;study&lt;/a&gt; on great Fortune 500 companies described those companies making their best decisions through fierce debates:
&lt;blockquote&gt;&lt;strong&gt;What we found in companies that make good decisions is the debate is real. &lt;/strong&gt; When Colman Mockler at Gillette is trying to decide whether to go with cheaper, disposable plastic razors or more expensive ones, he asks marvelous questions.   &lt;span class="highlight"&gt;He's Socratic. He pushes people to defend their points of view. He lets the debate rage. &lt;/span&gt;
&lt;h2&gt;What Great Companies Do&lt;/h2&gt;
And this is, by the way, not an isolated case. We found this process in all the companies we studied, when they made a leap to greatness.   &lt;span class="highlight"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;The debate is real. It is real, violent debate in search of understanding.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/span&gt; If you're seeking harmony, you know something's wrong with your business.&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Phew.  Use the spankin' template to get you on your fabulous way:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;h2&gt;"We have to debate about what works best because that helps us uncover the best answers to serve Client Sammy."&lt;/h2&gt;
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